In My Unending Story

To me who dreamed so much as a child, who made a dreamworld in which I was the heroine of an unending story, the lives of people around me continued to have a certain storybook quality.  I learned something which has stood me in good stead many times  —  The most important thing in any relationship is not what you get but what you give.
—     Eleanor Roosevelt
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On This Day In:
2022	Every Morning
2021	In My Unending Story
	Say You Will (Shout)
2020	A Day With No Sun
	A Beautiful Thing (Too Much Heaven)
	A Moment To Rejoice
2019	Where And Why
	Day 12: Pause Or Plateau?
	Eating Later
2018	Here And Hope
2017	Choose
2016	All I Ever Wanted
2015	Compassionate Toward Yourself
2014	All And None
2013	Voices In The Dark
2012	Does Uncommonly Flexible = Flip-Flopping?
2011	A Modest Review Of A Modern Day Classic
	Encouragement Is The Path To Immortality

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Independent Isolation

One of the most indelible lessons of this scary time is that you can survive alone, but you need others to flourish.  The most dangerous preexisting condition my husband and I had for fighting the virus was our devotion to self-sufficiency.  Independence can be its own kind of social isolation.
—    Belinda Luscombe
From her opinion / editorial:  “Nursing my husband back to health, badly“
Appearing in:  Time Magazine, dtd: 18 May 2020
The article appears online as:  “I Thought I Could Handle Anything. Then My Husband Got Sick“
The link is:  https://time.com/5824463/coronavirus-asking-for-help/
(It may be behind a pay-wall.  I am a print / online subscriber.)
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On This Day In:
2022	Taking The Chance To Improvise
2021	A Bit Like Politics
	How About Tonight?
2020	Independent Isolation
2019	This Pilgrim Has Had A (Mostly) Happy Road
2018	And Men, Too
2017	Damned If You Do
2016	A Storm Over The Horizon
2015	What About Today?
2014	Idiot, n.
2013	Temporary Reality
2012	The Great Objective
2011	Read A Book

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If One Is Lucky Enough

Those in the first flush of youth can tell us about the drives of the libido but will never understand the changes that happen later in life when libido flags.  They will never understand how Sophocles felt he’d escaped a “savage monster” and George Melly felt “unchained from an idiot” when libido thankfully waned.
It also takes time and experience to learn the wisdom of the importance of sex other than as a recreational pursuit.  Those searching for partners, or looking to establish families, are likely to offer fewer pearls of wisdom than those who have managed to establish long-term relationships and created stable families where the importance of sex for bonding and reproduction come to the fore.  One needs to be older to know, if one is lucky enough, how to sustain a long term sexual relationship once the novelty has faded.  Even more importantly, it takes time and consequently age, to know how to sustain love in a relationship when sexual life has changed with age and infirmity.
Found at one of the blogs I follow:  Looking back in sadness
The specific post link is:  Young People and Sex
Please visit the original site if you have a spare moment.    —    kmab
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On This Day In:
2022	Ever Feel Like You’re Spitting Into The Wind?
	The Valley Of Death
2021	On Learning To Play Guitar
	When You’re Feeling Small (Bridge Over Troubled Water)
2020	Remember Your Obligation
	Smile And Shuffle (I Wanna Dance With Somebody)
2019	If One Is Lucky Enough
	Basic Training (In Films)
2018	Being President Doesn’t Make You Presidential
	Day 27: 4 Weeks / 55lbs
2017	I’m Seeing It, Too
2016	Personal Decisions
2015	Verbal Fluency
2014	Familiar
2013	Unbending
2012	Simple Sayings
2011	Wupped Again?
2010	3 and 1…
	Musical Notes…
	Doubt Tries…
	Northwest Passages – Evening Two
	The Beierly’s Web Site

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Blow Between Your Ears

Sometimes you love a person so much you have to walk away.  Sometimes, for them;  sometimes for you.  This song reminds me of that…
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On This Day In:
2023	I Didn’t Finish It Yesterday
2022	Starting Over (Again)
	Another LONG Post (Guitar Review)
2021	Allowing For Compromise
	Whoa-whoa (It’s Not Unusual)
2020	Why #LyingDonald Hurts The US
2019	Blow Between Your Ears (Didn’t I Blow Your Mind This Time)
2018	Thinking Ahead
2017	I’d Like To Try
2016	Or Blog (And Bound)
2015	Welcome The Virtuous
2014	Closing The Gap?
2013	On Parenting
2012	What Knowledge Is
2011	The Indefinite Accumulation Of Property

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Happy 34th Anniversary, Hil!!

When in a relationship, a real man doesn’t make his woman jealous of others, he makes others jealous of his woman.
―    Steve Maraboli
From:  “Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience“
[Happy 34th Anniversary, Hil
You are still everything which is precious to me…
Love Always, Your Kev XXX 00 X
—    kmab]
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On This Day In:
2022	Happy 38th Anniversary, Hil!! (My Love)
2021	Happy 37th Anniversary, Hil!! (My Love)
2020	Happy 36th Anniversary, Hil!! (You Are The Sunshine Of My Life)
2019	Sampling 3:16
	Happy 35th Anniversary, Hil!! (You Raise Me Up)
2018	Happy 34th Anniversary, Hil!! (I Can Love You Like That)
2017	Happy 33rd Anniversary, Hil!! (Evermore)
2016	Happy 32nd Anniversary, Hil!!
2015	Happy Anniversary Hil!!
2014	30th Wedding Anniversary
2013	Number 29 (And Counting)
2012	Hammer ‘N Roses
	Happy Anniversary
2011	I Can Hear It Now

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Leaving On A Mid-Night Train

If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours.  If they don’t, they never were.
―    Kahlil Gibran
[I don’t know if this is interesting to anyone else, but the first time I distinctly remember hearing this quote was when Lee Majors was being interviewed just after his separation from Farrah Fawcett-Majors back around 1979.  They were later divorced in 1982.    —    kmab]
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On This Day In:
2023	Who Was That Masked Man?
2022	In My Defense…
2021	Mike Could Have Saved Us A Bundle On Border Walls
	Is It Too Late? (I’ll Have To Say I Love You)
2020	And Then There Was Yellow
	At This Moment
2019	Sin Less Every Day
2018	Probably Only A Little Easier
2017	Stars Above
2016	Where Do You Stand?
	Health Update
2015	Leaving On A Mid-Night Train
2014	Questioned Faith
2013	At Home In Fire
2012	A Tale Of Two Books
	More Meaning
2011	Back At The Millstone
	To Learn, Teach

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Dear Diary

How men and women record things in their diaries……
Wife’s Diary:
Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird.  We had made plans to meet at a nice restaurant for dinner.   I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it.  Conversation wasn’t flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk.  He agreed, but he didn’t say much.
I asked him what was wrong;  He said, ‘Nothing..’  I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset.   He said he wasn’t upset, that it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry about it.  On the way home, I told him that I loved him.  He smiled slightly, and kept driving.  I can’t explain his behavior.  I don’t know why he didn’t say, ‘I love you, too.’
When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore.  He just sat there quietly, and watched TV.  He continued to seem distant and absent.  Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed.  About 15 minutes later, he came to bed.  But I still felt that he was distracted, and his thoughts were somewhere else.  He fell asleep;  I cried.  I don’t know what to do.  I’m almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else.  My life is a disaster.
Husband’s Diary:
A two-foot putt………. who the hell misses a two-foot putt ?
[Ta again to Liverpool Dave for emailing this to me.    —    kmab]
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On This Day In:
2023	Imperceptible Steps
2022	Desert Springs
2021	And Usually The Former
	The Real Heir… (Hair Of The Dog)
2020	The Doggie Dab
	A Fork In The Road
2019	#LyingDonald’s Problem With The News And Truth
2018	Oh, Hell
2017	No Welcome Mat Here
2016	Making It Up
	A Missed Beat
2015	We Are All Explorers
2014	Still Trying To Cope
2013	Dear Diary (A good chuckle!)
2012	Conveniently Sequential
2011	King’s Speech Number Four
	Rational Probability

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Creative Avoidance

Most scientists are scientists because they are afraid of life.  It’s wonderful to be creative in science because you can do it without clashing with people and suffering the pain of relationships, and making your way in the world.  It’s a wonderful out — it’s sort of this aseptic world where you can use the very exciting faculties you have and not encounter any pain.  The pain in solving a problem is small potatoes compared with the pain you encounter in living.
Introspection is not a scientific activity:  it’s not repeatable, there are no good theories about how to do it, what you expect to find.  It’s strange that by looking into yourself you really get an appreciation of the mystery of the universe.  You don’t by trying to find the laws of physics.
—    John Backus
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On This Day In:
2023	Imagining Justice
2022	Yo-yo Management
2021	DIY: Outdoor Gym Modifications
	First Hammock Hang Of 2021
	Slow Moving Trains And Squirrels (I Love…)
	Just Chillin’… Why?
2020	Still Crazy After All These Years…
2019	20 / 20 Foresight
	He Knew Damned Well…
2018	Be Someone’s Kindling
2017	When The Moment Comes (I Lived…)
2016	Changed Clothes Lately?
2015	Like Stone
2014	Resistance Is Futile
2013	Subtle Humor
	To Look Behind Green Eyes
2012	The Path Is Endless
2011	Happy MLK, Jr Day!!!
	A Factor Of Ten
	Better Late Than Never?
	Whoops!
	Acceptable Beginnings
	Slow Progress
	Useful Confrontation
	When Phenomena Are Different
	Creative Avoidance
	Thinking
	Fast And Flexible
	Surrender Certainty
	Techniques
	Vive La Difference
	Destiny
	Completeness
	Art

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