Four Loves

Infantile love follows the principle: “I love because I am loved.“
Mature love follows the principle: “I am loved because I love.”
Immature love says, “I love you because I need you.“
Mature love says: “I need you because I love you.“
—  Erich Fromm
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On This Day In:
2017	Faith In Science
2016	What The World Calls
2015	Say What?
2014	Start Today
2013	Fly!!
2012	Greater Love
2011	Before

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Open Hearts Find Strength

Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around.  You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more.  You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you.  When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement.  They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself.  Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful.  There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around.  You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are.  The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever.  Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again.  Colours seem brighter and more brilliant.  Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all.  A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face.  In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby.  Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you.  You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do.  Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon.  You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible.  You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you.  You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end.  Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile.  Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.
―  Bob Marley
[On this date, 34 years ago, my Hil came back to me (from Liverpool) and we began our life together…  And our love is still new and growing.  —  KMAB]
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On This Day In:
2017	Thinking Out Loud
2016	Fighting Change
2015	Get Change
2014	Trapped (Again)
2013	Someone Else Believes
2012	The Practical Value of Science
2011	Seize Gladly The Difficult Task
	A Constitutional Conversation
2010	The Fierce Urgency Of Now…

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Something / Nothing

Sometimes we feel that life’s a battle, and we’re alone.  We feel that when no one is willing to hear us out, or when no one is willing to fight the fight with us.  We feel that we are alone when there’s no out to reach out.  When staring outside the window, we see only darkness and silence.
So why is it that we need someone else?  Why is it that we have to feel as if there’s something missing, something that’s been taken away from us, something that only another person can give us?
Something that can’t be bought.
Something that can’t be stolen.
Something that can’t be defined or understood or seen.
Something we all need, we all want.
And when you find that something, that’s when you’re complete.  Perfect.  Happy.
That’s when all your dreams become possible, no matter how crazy they really are, when your biggest fears die.
You’re not afraid anymore.
You’re not alone anymore.
Love is simply this: we give the best of our hearts to someone who’s willing to fight the fight with us.  Nothing else really matters.  Distance, age, sex, whatever.
—  Aishwarya Shah
[The above quote is an excerpt from a post on a blog I am now following:   http://eclipsedwords.com/
The specific post is located at:  http://eclipsedwords.com/2018/06/04/modern-love/
If you have a free minute, you might enjoy checking it out…  —  KMAB]
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On This Day In:
2017	Kindness
2016	Dealing With It
2015	Too Many Choices!
2014	Vini, Vidi, Vici
2013	Heroes
	Education, n.
2012	Who I Want To Be
2011	Mythic Forgetfulness

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Happy Meeting Day 34 (And Counting)

I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where.  I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.
―  Pablo Neruda
From his book of poetry: “100 Love Sonnets“
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On This Day In:
2017	Happy Meeting Day 33 (And Counting)
2016	Picture Perfect
2015	Life Showed Compassion
2014	And Then I Met Her
2013	Defining Maleness
	The Run Continues
2012	All Set
2011	Not Always

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A Moment Of Union

Even in sin, the act of love  – done with love –  is shadowed with divinity.  Its conformity may be at fault, but its nature is not altered, and its nature is creative, communicative, splendid in surrender.  It was in the splendor of my surrender to Nina and she to me, that I first understood how a man might surrender himself to God  – if a God existed.  The moment of love is a moment of union  – of body and spirit –  and the act of faith is mutual and implicit.
―  Morris L. West
From his novel: “The Devil’s Advocate“
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On This Day In:
2016	Symptoms
2016	Tossers
2015	Hunger
2014	Outside Dependence
2013	Doing Right
2012	A Short Course In Human Relations
	If Death Be My Future
	Strive
	Such A Fool
2011	I’m Working For A Living

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I Will Love You… Forever

The most important things are the hardest to say, because words diminish them.
—  Stephen King
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On This Day In:
2017	Pebbles In Your Shoe?
2016	Resolute Will
2015	Absorbed And Civilized
2014	Relax And Lead
2013	Location, Location, Location
2012	Are You Really Good?
2011	Relatively Objective, Anyway

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Happy Valentine’s Day – 2018!!

“I’m in love with you,” he said quietly.
“Augustus,” I said.
“I am,” he said.  He was staring at me, and I could see the corners of his eyes crinkling.  “I’m in love with you, and I’m not in the business of denying myself the simple pleasure of saying true things.  I’m in love with you, and I know that love is just a shout into the void, and that oblivion is inevitable, and that we’re all doomed and that there will come a day when all our labor has been returned to dust, and I know the sun will swallow the only earth we’ll ever have, and I am in love with you.”
―  John Green,
From his book: “The Fault In Our Stars“
[Happy Valentine’s Day, Hil!!  Just sayin’ something true…
All my love, Always, Your Kev XXX 00 X]
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On This Day In:
2017	Happy Valentine’s Day – 2017!!
2016	Happy Valentine’s Day – 2016!!
2015	To My Special Lady
2014	Awakening
2013	Drowsy In Comfort
2012	Happy Valentine’s Day
2011	Own Your Bible

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