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Even Dracula is to be pitied in a way.  All people who do dreadful things are to be pitied.  I have used a phrase — the Loneliness of Evil —  many times, and I believe it is true.
    —    Christopher Lee
October 1967
[Of course, not all who are lonely are Evil, but it interesting to think of all who are Evil as lonely.  Or, at least, alone.    —    KMAB]
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On This Day In:
2014 Worse Than Useless
2013 Personal Prisons
2012 So, Not Yet Then
2011 Real Love

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Man loves company – even if it is only that of a small burning candle.
    —    Georg C. Lichtenberg
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On This Day In:
2014 Whiner(s)
2013 Just Passing Through
2012 Dog-gone Heaven
2011 Occasional, Sad Results

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Schizophrenia beats dining alone.
    —    Oscar Levant
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On This Day In:
2013 Exercise For Those Over 50
2012 Tearful Joy!!
Except When He’s Left

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It’s often just enough to be with someone.  I don’t need to touch them.  Not even talk.  A feeling passes between you both.  You’re not alone.
  —  Marilyn Monroe
[This quote was originally found on one of the blogs I follow, maintained by Deodatta Shenai-Khatkhate:  Deo Volente  at:  (http://dshenai.wordpress.com/)
The actual post is:  http://dshenai.wordpress.com/2013/03/24/interesting-quotes-by-marilyn-monroe/
Thanks, Deo!  —  KMAB]
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On This Day In:
2012 Lawyer, n.
2011 Each Day Remember…
2010 Impossible Dreams of Camelot

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Tonight I dropped on to YouTube to see where serendipity would take me.  She (“serendipity” has always been a female to me) usually takes me to oldies and sure enough I found many, but was particularly touched by three:  “Heard It In A Love Song“, “Everybody Plays The Fool“, and “Just Don’t Want To Be Lonely“.  All three were big hits back in the days when I was young enough to still be wondering if I’d ever find THE love of my life…
In reverse order then…  I think being such social creatures, men and women have an innate fear of not having friends or “finding” true love.  Admittedly, there are some who seem to be able to get by without either (or both), but I remain convinced loneliness is one of the great miseries of the human condition.  “Just Don’t Want To Be Lonely, is a great song about the fear of being unloved and lonely.  The particular portion which struck me listening tonight is:
I’d rather be loved
And needed
Depended on to give a love
I can’t give
When you’re gone,
When you’re gone
I don’t want to be lonely
The singer wants to be “depended on to give a love” he can’t give, when his lover is gone.  The contradiction there is stunning, because we are frequently left to love when lovers have left (particularly us older folks who face losing a spouse).  The obvious answer is that the singer is referring to physical “love”.  My question would be is that not the easiest “love” to find replacement for?  I would also ask if that is the kind of love which staves off loneliness?
The second song is called: “Everybody Plays The Fool” and was another hit by the same performers – The Main Ingredient.  This song is a cautionary tale about being hurt by giving your love to the wrong person.   In the throes of heart-break one is left to wonder, how you could not see what everyone else did?  Well, the simple answer is two-fold.  First, it’s hard to tell the true intentions of another, and secondly, it’s not something you learn “in school” (unless it’s the school of hard-knocks).  We each must take our turn.
Everybody plays the fool,
Sometime.
They use your heart just like a tool.
Listen baby.
They never tell you so in school.
I want to say it again.
Everybody plays the fool.
The third song lyrics I’ve posted on my Poems page is a “country” song (“Heard It In A Love Song“) about a person who is leaving a relationship even though he feels he is in love.  The line /phrase which has always struck me is: “I was born a wrangler and a rounder, And I guess I always will“.  While that’s the most interesting turn of phrase in the song, the equally interesting thing is the explanation / justification: because the singer heard it in a love song.  Obviously (to me), the singer has been listening to way too many “crying in your beer” songs and not enough “happily ever after” songs.  Just sayin’…
Always something greener on the other side of that hill
I was born a wrangler and a rounder
And I guess I always will
This last song has a great flute solo and so must be listened to to really be enjoyed.  It’s performed by the Marshall Tucker Band.  By the way, caution is in order before you go listen to these on your favorite music provider.  All three have great hooks and may end up being in your head for days.  A word to the wise will suffice…
And, as always, if you enjoy the lyrics, go listen to the performances, and finally, purchase the song.  Finally, believe it or not, both groups are still around performing…
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My longer-range schemes have to do with providing all Americans with artificial extended families of a thousand members or more.  Only when we have overcome loneliness can we begin to share wealth and work more fairly.  I honestly believe that we will have those families by-and-by, and I hope they will become international.
   —    Kurt Vonnegut, Jr.
From the preface to his book: “Wampeters, Foma &  Granfalloons
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